Harmonious networking?

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I’ve been in the working-world for over 30 years, and as such, have encountered all levels of individuals. I also started out at the bottom of the ranks and worked my way up the corporate ladder, while at times also working as a waitress, house-cleaner — whatever I had to do at times to make ends meet as a single parent of 2 small children.

I’ve never forgotten where I came from and always pride myself on treating people the way I wish to be treated, because I remember what it was like to be at the very bottom scraping for scraps.

Now, having said that –part of my job is reaching out to people across the spectrum for various reasons. The replies have ranged from the extremely receptive and thankful, to some of the rudest and ignorant replies one could ever receive.

That got me talking to several people in the business at various firms, and they too have shared with me some of the replies they’ve received in regards to requests and outreach.

When did common courtesy become obsolete? When did people become so bitter that they feel that it is ok to just lash out to people who are merely trying to do a job?  What ever happened to the good old “no thank you”?

Part of the whole “networking” function is to reach out to people you do not know and see if there are any common grounds that you could potential find either for referrals or working together. Why do some feel the need to respond so rudely to someone trying to introduce him or herself to you for possible networking? Is a simple “no thank you” that difficult to muster?

In talking to so many over the course of the years, it seems this epidemic has only gotten worse. People are getting ruder by the day. The self-appointed “right” to just lash out to people any way they feel and reply in the most condescending manner is like second nature to some.

Perhaps we all could use a day of reflection, to remind everyone that we are all here to do a job. Unless we were fortunate enough to hit the lotto, we all have to wake up everyday and go to work. Whatever our role is, we are just trying to do the best that we can to make a living.

The next time someone writes you an email or sends you a letter, or rings your phone, whether on behalf of himself or herself or on behalf of a client — before lashing out – take a moment to reflect. They are, after all, just doing their job.

….just my two cents of “peace and harmony” and reflection for the day.

Wishing you all continued success in your life……even if this post makes you mad…….

— Patty